Last week I attended one of my favorite charity events: The 47th Annual Patrons’ Show Fundraiser for The Art League. The Art League is a wonderful charitable non-profit organization whose mission is to develop the artist through education, exhibition, and a stimulating, supportive environment, while sharing the experience of the visual arts with the community.
Courtesy of the Art League
I love the design of the Patrons’ Show; it seems very democratic. Almost 700 people purchase tickets. The same number of pieces of art are donated. The names of everyone who purchases a ticket go into a bin, and when your name is drawn you pick a piece of art. If your name gets pulled first – you get to pick ANY of the donated works. Get picked toward the end, you’re left to choose from the art that has not yet been selected. It’s thrilling and fun, with food and drinks mixed in.
Here’s the beauty we brought home this year:
Artic Vessel by Alison Sigethy
By the way, we picked around #400… whew!
Why do I really like this event? The prep. You have to be kinda organized and really prioritize your picks; requiring some dedicated time to view and rank the art. This is where the sociologist observer in me kicks in.
Many people, my hubby and me included, purchase just one ticket. This requires a bit of collaboration and compromise regarding our choices. As we toured the gallery the week before the auction, I watched other couples and noted how they communicated. You can tell a lot – A LOT – by how this goes down.
The cranky couple that bossed each other around, called veto on certain pieces, and seemed really stressed out by the process – not a happy couple. On the flip side, I watched a young couple with their six month old baby strolling through the gallery, laughing and letting their baby choose the pieces that would be on the top of their list. They were having a blast. I wish I knew if they managed to get what looked to be their top pick: a fun glossy photo of Oreos and milk! This was a couple that I’m betting will happily make it through the long haul.
This has me thinking about relationships, like mine with my hubby, that have made it past a decade or more (we’re approaching 17 years together). We’re a very different couple participating in this 47th Patrons’ Show, compared to our younger selves. Oh, I’ll always want to get one of the top art picks on our list. However, I’m now humored by my hubby’s need to feel the burn, ranking and re-ranking our top choices, creating intricate lists to sort and re-sort. It’s just the way he’s wired. And don’t you know he wanted that Oreo photo! It was on our list – OK, near the bottom of our list. But a decade ago I would have said flat-out Oh, hellz no.
Maybe the key to good relationships is knowing that your spouse’s little annoying habits and quirky tendencies are just that: little. I’ve got my share of oddities too: when I make the bed the pillowcase openings have to face out – everyone does this, right? ?
To be honest, I don’t always roll with the punches; last week I was traveling and hubby re-packed my car…. he wasn’t traveling with me…. he just didn’t like the way the car was packed. I may not have been particularly gracious about his assistance. We can joke about it now and that’s what’s truly important. He happens to be an excellent car packer, dammit.
I guess it’s all in how you choose: your spouse, your battles, your artwork. Choose wisely my friends.
How about you? Do you have tics, quirks, perhaps habits that may be annoying but the people in your life have chosen to accept/tolerate/appreciate?