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Kimberly Dalferes | Author

Crazy, Southern, Irish Gal, Author

Fuzzy Bunny Slippers

December 14, 2012 by Kim Dalferes

Many of the readers who frequent this blog (God bless you, by the way), have come to know me as Kimba: King Salmon Slayer; Estate Sale Junkie; sometimes writes books . What some of you may not know is that I also have a day-job working in public policy.

For the first forty-four years of my life, I was a “rules girl.”  I traveled from high school classroom to college lecture hall to workplace/government cubicle.  The schedule of a 9-to-5 job matched my sensibilities for changing the world:  one project and policy at a time.  This left-handed Virgo thrived in environments that were stable and predictable; working from agendas, time-frames, task plans, and to-do lists.  So how did this all change four years ago?  Well, I bought a pair of fuzzy bunny slippers and jumped WAY out of my comfort zone. 

This was not an easy transition.  There was incredible risk in giving up everything with which I had become familiar, based upon one premise:  I wanted to do something that would make me happy.  The last “office job” that I held just wasn’t cutting it. After quite a bit of soul-searching, I came to realize that instead of beating my head against the wall trying to change that environment, what really needed to change was… drum roll …. me! 

Since I took the leap to being my own boss, many of my gal pals, sitting next to me here in the middle-aged cheap seats, have also contemplated work/life balance and have made some changes to their lives.  Is it our age, or is it something else? Hmmm…

I’m happy to report back that, going on my fifth year as an Independent Consultant, I’m still LOVIN being out on my own.  There have been some important “aha” moments for me along the journey.  What’s described below might not be accurate for everyone who is their own boss – these are some of my personal self-truths:

  • Do your homework before you jump. To be honest, I wish I had done more research before I gave up my full-time job.  Regarding the logistics, I was lucky in that my husband had already started our company to promote his project management consulting.  It was relatively easy to expand the company to include public policy and create a portfolio for my new independent work.  If you are starting from scratch, you’ll need to learn about establishing a business, tax ramifications, attaining health insurance, developing a business plan, etc. There are some excellent resources for small businesses, women entrepreneurs, and Independent consultants.  Some of my favorites are:

Ø    The Office of Women’s Business Ownership

Ø    Entrepreneur , search under “women”

Ø    Association Of Women Entrepreneurs 

Ø    The Women of Facebook

Part II of your “homework” needs to be researching the field of work that you want to pursue.  As an Independent, you’re going to be selling, in part, yourself.  You need to know as much as possible about your sphere of influence before you can successfully maneuver.  This leads to my second “aha”…

  •  It helps to stay “in-field” – work what you know. I worked in public policy for over twenty years before I went solo.  I had built a network of connections and colleagues and a fairly strong yet informal support system.  I’m not saying you can’t go from nursing to being a stockbroker; it’s just more difficult to change fields/professions AND go independent at the same time.
  • Be prepared for what it’s like working from a home office. You need to be realistic and honest about your own needs and strengths.  Working as an Independent can feel a bit isolating at times – if you need to be around other people every day; working from a home office might not be for you. 

The “attention deficit disorder syndrome” can also kick-in: it is very easy to get distracted without the formal confines of a workplace.  What has worked best for me has been to:

Ø  create and keep a calendar;

Ø  adhere to a schedule; and

Ø  build out a portfolio that keeps me in touch with multiple clients most weeks.

 

For additional insight and recommendations, here is an excellent article from the Wall Street Journal on this subject:  “Working From Home Without Slacking Off.”

Once I found my balance, I’ve come to enjoy and appreciate the benefits of working from a home office.  This is where my fuzzy pink bunny slippers come in: I can do a load of laundry during a conference call or make cookies while listening to a webinar – and never have to put on a suit or drive that crazy back and forth, to and from the city.  I now have an easy five minute commute: out of bed; slippers on; down the stair to my desk (with coffee); and the computer booted up.  This has proven to be hugely beneficial to my health and well-being.  I can also work when I’m inspired to work; as long as I meet the deadlines and expectations of my clients.  This flexibility has also enabled me to dedicate more time to writing; something I never thought I would be able to do until I retired.

I have additional suggestions for working successfully as an Independent, but I’ll leave that to a future blog topic – perhaps the top ten ways to build a client portfolio.  For now, I would like to hear back from you:

Have you recently moved into working as your own boss?  Please share with us something that has worked well for you and something you would go back and do differently… I know your advice will be wonderful.

Cheers, and I hope you receive those fuzzy bunny slippers in your stocking this year,

Kimba

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Comments

  1. marquita herald says

    December 14, 2012 at 1:16 pm

    Love your article and advice Kimba. Working on my own has certainly been an education. I can pull an all-nighter when I'm on deadline and then take an – or treat myself to a mental health day and enjoy lunch with friends and a matinee. Of course, I can look back and see things I could have done better – but nothing I regret. I work pretty much 7 days a week in some capacity, but the difference is I am excited with each new day.

    • Kim D says

      December 14, 2012 at 7:04 pm

      Marquita, I think you nailed it: the difference is that I am excited with each new day.  Work self-worth doesn't have to be achieved between the hours of 9 and 5 when you work form a home office; one of the best benefits.  Thanks for sharing.

  2. Diane Marie says

    December 14, 2012 at 11:26 am

    Love this post Kimba!  The first time I attempted to leave corporate and work from home didn't work out so well and I ended up returning to corporate just 2 1/2 short months after leaving.  However this second time has been most successful and I am on my 6th year of working from home.  I wouldn't trade it for anything.  What great advice you shared. 

    • Kim D says

      December 14, 2012 at 6:58 pm

      Love to hear about strong successful women – kudos to you Diane.  And double kudos for taking the leap to working independently TWICE! 

  3. Suzanne says

    December 14, 2012 at 10:35 am

    I just love all the grounded advice you have to share.  I don't have bunny slippers, but I do have my special "Work" slippers.  My husband bought me some awesome slippers with a healthy tread on the bottom, just in case there's snow outside (my office is on our property, a few steps from the house).  Again, love the sage advice.

    • Kim D says

      December 14, 2012 at 6:51 pm

      Suzanne, your magic work slippers should hold the same powers as my fuzzy bunny slippers. Not too sure that my slippers would hold up in the snow…

  4. Nathalie Villeneuve says

    December 14, 2012 at 10:12 am

    Wow! Kimba, What an amazing article. I didn't know about this business of yours! Your are such a resourceful Lady!
    Thank you so much for mentioning The Women of Facebook as a place of reference …you absolutely made my day!!
    For me 2012 was a year to find clarity and direction…As I get ready to launch my new website (probably end of Jan.) I am getting ready to proclaim 2013 "My greatest year of achievements"!
     I will fallow your our advise inside The Women of Facebook about how we can all thrive in our business. The tips and insights on the group shows the power of a community to help women get ideas and make the decision to embrace their passion and purpose…You are such a great example of that!
    Thank you!!!
    Happy Holidays!
    Nathalie

    • Kim D says

      December 14, 2012 at 6:46 pm

      Nathalie, we all CANNOT wait for your site to launch in January!  And you KNOW how much I love TWOF – I recommend to all my gal pals. 

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