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Kimberly Dalferes | Author

Crazy, Southern, Irish Gal, Author

Gardenias in Costco

April 20, 2012 by Kim Dalferes

Walking through Costco last week, desperately searching for the printer ink, I came across an aisle filled with gardenia bushes for sale. The dark green shiny leaves and emerging white buds made me think of my GeeGee. In the backyard of the home where I spent many of my childhood days, she had the largest, most beautiful gardenia bush. GeeGee was such a good southern gal who could grow anything; and tucked in among her orange and avocado trees and crotons was that bush.

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As I stood there in the wide Costco aisle, missing my GeeGee in the most aching way, I almost started bawling right there in aisle 14. Oh yes, this new found talent to go from stoic to Tammy Faye Baker in ten seconds or less is a nice little present from the menopause fairy. What stopped my impending blubbering, and made me instead let out a bit of a laugh, was GeeGee’s voice chiming in, as if over the loud speaker:

 “Oh Lord, such a fuss; and in the middle of Costco! Bless your heart; it’s just a plant.”

 God love that woman; she will always be my quintessential model of the classic southern gal. She also happens to be the Patron Saint of Parking; but that is another story…

 What are your thoughts regarding the ideal southern gal? The actress Sissy Spacek, in a recent interview with Southern Living magazine, noted that being southern is a “state of mind.” I think that’s definitely true. What comes to mind for me, as examples of how to be a good southern gal, include:

 Tomatoes.  You gotta be able to grow ‘maters.  I’m still working on this one. 

 No swearing. Much to my own mother’s dismay, this is one that I fail at – miserably. There is one exception here:  if you ever hear a southern gal utter the words “Ah… HELL no…” you better run. 

A certain sensibility. Southern gals possess a certain “matter-of-factness” about life. If the yard needs mowing, well then good gracious just go mow it! Even Scarlett O’Hara sucked it up and worked the fields when it was necessary.

 An ability to maintain long lasting gal pal relationships. GeeGee’s lifelong friendships with her girlfriends and her sisters is something I learned to emulate at a young age. Two of my dearest friends have been by my side since I was 14 years old.

 A true heart. GeeGee certainly had strong convictions about most things. I didn’t always agree with everything she said or did, but I admired her will. I never doubted that she always believed she was doing the right thing for the right reason.

 A little bit of mischief. Being a good southern gal doesn’t mean behaving like a saint. I imagine that GeeGee got into her fair share of trouble throughout her life.

 What would you add as your southern gal examples?

Well, I gotta go; need to head back to Costco. Can you believe I bought the gardenia bush, but forgot the printer ink?

Cheers,

Kimba

Filed Under: The Middle-Aged Cheap Seats Tagged With: Costco, I was in love with a short man once, Kim Dalferes, Kim Dalferes Author, Kimba, sissy spacek, southern, southern gal

Comments

  1. Theresa says

    April 24, 2012 at 8:14 pm

    Good job

  2. Peg S says

    April 20, 2012 at 8:23 pm

    What a fun read. I think of GG(I've  been told wonderful stories about her)
    every Sunday morning when I hit the parking lot of HNJ Church and always
    find a parking spot!!

    • Kim Dalferes says

      April 23, 2012 at 11:00 am

      Peg, I love that the "Patron Saint of Parking" smiles on you!  Just this past Sunday we scored ON STREET parking in front of the Air and Space museum; most definitely an act of our patron saint.

  3. Auntie T. says

    April 20, 2012 at 2:16 pm

    You had me at the word gardenia. We were all so blessed to have that strong, brave woman in our lives. She loved to laugh and saw the humor in most any situation. Served her well in bringing up 4 lively kids who revere her memory.  Her lessons live on in me and (I suspect) John and Amy as well.
    Love you sweetie,
    T.

    • Kim Dalferes says

      April 23, 2012 at 10:59 am

      LOL – well I know Scotty and Johnny certainly remember that avocado tree!  She lives on through all of us for sure.

  4. Frank Montrose says

    April 20, 2012 at 12:54 pm

    What is it about plants (especially flowers) & loved ones who have passed? I think associating something that lives with someone we loved gives continuing life to the memory & to the loved one.

    • Kim Dalferes says

      April 23, 2012 at 10:54 am

      Thanks for the comment Frank. You're so right about our connecting flowers with memories – maybe because flowers are always so alive? 

  5. Vicki says

    April 20, 2012 at 11:28 am

    You KNEW this would make me cry!! I always told you a child cannot have too many grandmas..& you certainly had 2 great ones that gave you many memories. I envy all those memories & share so many of GG. Thanks! LuvU

    • Kim Dalferes says

      April 23, 2012 at 10:53 am

      Honey, I could write about baseball and it would some how make you cry!  Hugs.

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